Excellent ! I totally match this being an (ex) elite runner triathlete transitioning late and struggling with male body syndrome. Having had a bad year struggling to find my way back into fitness and transitioning this blog is helping me to refocus 🙏
You captured all of this perfectly! I agree with every point, and my personal experience confirms it all. Thank you for systematizing this—I'm sure this guide will help many people. Following this advice is a guaranteed win!
UPD: Actually, my journey is still going on, and I still have a lot of changes ahead — both inside and out. I’ll even take some of these tips for myself and try to bring them to life.
Hi, I am now 70 after being on HRT for 5 years. I have a small frame, and from day one I decided to eat and exercise like a woman. I train from toes upwards to exercise every part of my body. I do not lift heavy weights and practice yoga to keep supple. Skincare in all its forms is part of my daily routine. I eat in proportion to the amount of physical energy I expend. And yes, I am 70 and believe myself to be attractive because I have had to really work at. All of what you say is true.
Trixie, You sound fucking amazing! I would reply more but I'm lying here recovering from my vaginoplasty and just for a laugh I decided to get a trap nerve in my back! Double agony. You are an inspiration. I have to say I have never done yoga and it is on my list when I get back home from Bangkok after this surgery.
Hi Stevie, I’m awake in the middle of the night, and so pleased to hear from you. I have practiced yoga on and off since my teenage years, and it is something I keep on coming back to. It enables me to tap into what makes us graceful and strong in our natural movements as women traversing the world. I wish you a full recovery, and glad to have made your acquaintance. Trixi X
This article finds me at the perfect time, right as I've gotten through the easy first-steps of transitioning, now confronting my own dad-bod, and finding that I don't like it. Thank you for writing this.
I know I can do it. I've done it before. 20 years ago, egg-me dieted myself from 140 pounds down to about 117, just because it bothered me that I'd gotten so heavy. I couldn't have told you why it bothered me, though in hindsight it's that skinniness is female-coded in our society and being thin had been the only thing about my body that I'd ever actually liked. I guess my subconscious was not willing to let go of that. Not, that is, until my wife noticed how rail-thin I'd become and said she was worried about me. I couldn't explain to her that I was dieting just... because? For no reason? Because I felt like I had to? So with no explanation to offer, I stopped.
But now it's a conscious thing. I understand the dynamics and the motivations now. Which in a certain sense makes it harder: now, I have to do it by choice, rather than simply following a compulsion I quietly chose not to question. But it's also easier now because the explanation is so transparent: dad-bod is not affirming to me. That's enough. Changing my eating habits is not something I have to hide.
Can I ask, though: what's that breakfast ice-cream recipe? It does sound good...
Hi Stevie love the name btw! Interesting I’ll think about it & reread in a few days got a busy bank holiday weekend to get through house viewings (I’m selling to relocate 400 miles to SW Scotland) then a busy Sunday at a social event with my dogs and Monday gardening & sunbathing ( 32 degrees in East England) to take advantage of the hot weather
Anyway I’ve got a similar but completely different story - Trans woman as well but l lost most of my weight b4 starting? @ the end of covid (2022) I was 250lbs pre diabetic probs newly retired aged 60? Separated ( now divorced) so I started a modified anti-diabetes diet ! Pretty extreme bsdicslly liquid protein shakes (600 - 700 calories?) so short version lost 85lbs in 6-7 months then socially transitioned spring 2023 & started HT in summer 2024 but put on 50 odd lbs in 6-7 months with a rare adverse interaction with Finistride? Switched to Decapatryl Feb 2025 & that summer lost 40lbs but still need to lose the remainder? I swim intermittently walk a lot daily (dogs) and have stated basic core exercises but not consistently yet but body shape gas changed significantly over last 18 months have gone down 2 uk dress sizes (18 to 14) 38C cup boobs still got a slight waist issue but am going to deal with that this summer finally putting on weight on my hips & arse? Am going to lose 20-25 lbs this summer, recreationally I’ve joined a ‘costal rowing club’ in Scotland and a wild swimming group as well. The rapid weight loss and continued dieting has shrunk my stomach so can only eat small portions (basically cut everting in 1/2!) lots of musli olives fish & seafood & pulses avocado as a treat veggie stir fry’s etc limited carbs esp bread & potatoes v limited alcohol trying to cut out snacking it’s not just will power it’s got to be manageable with some variety
I want to say something, and I want to say it very clearly, so that you understand. There is nothing you can say that will stop me living as a woman. There is nothing you can do that will stop me living as a woman. And there is nothing that can come out of your mouth that I give the remotest shit about. Now, is that 100% clear? I hope so. Now trot off back to whatever s***pit it is you live in. I've got software to write. I am busy.
I have this account because I enjoy writing. I enjoy sharing my experiences. I enjoy communicating with the wider transgender community. At times when life has been tough, it's been quite an enjoyable outlet. That's why I write.
Also that does nothing to stop the fact that we will win and you will lose, there are too many of us now, we are a problem with only one permanent solution. Giving us what we want. We will never go back into hiding. It’s too late for your bullshit, not only are you wrong, people will only think of you as wronger and wronger as time goes on.
Objectively untrue, if male nurses lose more patients it’s because they’re statistically assigned to departments with higher urgency and mortality. We know the staffing thing to be true.
Excellent ! I totally match this being an (ex) elite runner triathlete transitioning late and struggling with male body syndrome. Having had a bad year struggling to find my way back into fitness and transitioning this blog is helping me to refocus 🙏
You captured all of this perfectly! I agree with every point, and my personal experience confirms it all. Thank you for systematizing this—I'm sure this guide will help many people. Following this advice is a guaranteed win!
UPD: Actually, my journey is still going on, and I still have a lot of changes ahead — both inside and out. I’ll even take some of these tips for myself and try to bring them to life.
Hi, I am now 70 after being on HRT for 5 years. I have a small frame, and from day one I decided to eat and exercise like a woman. I train from toes upwards to exercise every part of my body. I do not lift heavy weights and practice yoga to keep supple. Skincare in all its forms is part of my daily routine. I eat in proportion to the amount of physical energy I expend. And yes, I am 70 and believe myself to be attractive because I have had to really work at. All of what you say is true.
Trixie, You sound fucking amazing! I would reply more but I'm lying here recovering from my vaginoplasty and just for a laugh I decided to get a trap nerve in my back! Double agony. You are an inspiration. I have to say I have never done yoga and it is on my list when I get back home from Bangkok after this surgery.
Hi Stevie, I’m awake in the middle of the night, and so pleased to hear from you. I have practiced yoga on and off since my teenage years, and it is something I keep on coming back to. It enables me to tap into what makes us graceful and strong in our natural movements as women traversing the world. I wish you a full recovery, and glad to have made your acquaintance. Trixi X
How tf is a seventy year old person dressing how they want hurting anyone?
This article finds me at the perfect time, right as I've gotten through the easy first-steps of transitioning, now confronting my own dad-bod, and finding that I don't like it. Thank you for writing this.
I know I can do it. I've done it before. 20 years ago, egg-me dieted myself from 140 pounds down to about 117, just because it bothered me that I'd gotten so heavy. I couldn't have told you why it bothered me, though in hindsight it's that skinniness is female-coded in our society and being thin had been the only thing about my body that I'd ever actually liked. I guess my subconscious was not willing to let go of that. Not, that is, until my wife noticed how rail-thin I'd become and said she was worried about me. I couldn't explain to her that I was dieting just... because? For no reason? Because I felt like I had to? So with no explanation to offer, I stopped.
But now it's a conscious thing. I understand the dynamics and the motivations now. Which in a certain sense makes it harder: now, I have to do it by choice, rather than simply following a compulsion I quietly chose not to question. But it's also easier now because the explanation is so transparent: dad-bod is not affirming to me. That's enough. Changing my eating habits is not something I have to hide.
Can I ask, though: what's that breakfast ice-cream recipe? It does sound good...
She said the recipe somewhere up in there
Hi Stevie love the name btw! Interesting I’ll think about it & reread in a few days got a busy bank holiday weekend to get through house viewings (I’m selling to relocate 400 miles to SW Scotland) then a busy Sunday at a social event with my dogs and Monday gardening & sunbathing ( 32 degrees in East England) to take advantage of the hot weather
Anyway I’ve got a similar but completely different story - Trans woman as well but l lost most of my weight b4 starting? @ the end of covid (2022) I was 250lbs pre diabetic probs newly retired aged 60? Separated ( now divorced) so I started a modified anti-diabetes diet ! Pretty extreme bsdicslly liquid protein shakes (600 - 700 calories?) so short version lost 85lbs in 6-7 months then socially transitioned spring 2023 & started HT in summer 2024 but put on 50 odd lbs in 6-7 months with a rare adverse interaction with Finistride? Switched to Decapatryl Feb 2025 & that summer lost 40lbs but still need to lose the remainder? I swim intermittently walk a lot daily (dogs) and have stated basic core exercises but not consistently yet but body shape gas changed significantly over last 18 months have gone down 2 uk dress sizes (18 to 14) 38C cup boobs still got a slight waist issue but am going to deal with that this summer finally putting on weight on my hips & arse? Am going to lose 20-25 lbs this summer, recreationally I’ve joined a ‘costal rowing club’ in Scotland and a wild swimming group as well. The rapid weight loss and continued dieting has shrunk my stomach so can only eat small portions (basically cut everting in 1/2!) lots of musli olives fish & seafood & pulses avocado as a treat veggie stir fry’s etc limited carbs esp bread & potatoes v limited alcohol trying to cut out snacking it’s not just will power it’s got to be manageable with some variety
Thank you for you excellent writing Katie, your discipline is admirable and the results certainly speak for themself
I want to say something, and I want to say it very clearly, so that you understand. There is nothing you can say that will stop me living as a woman. There is nothing you can do that will stop me living as a woman. And there is nothing that can come out of your mouth that I give the remotest shit about. Now, is that 100% clear? I hope so. Now trot off back to whatever s***pit it is you live in. I've got software to write. I am busy.
I have this account because I enjoy writing. I enjoy sharing my experiences. I enjoy communicating with the wider transgender community. At times when life has been tough, it's been quite an enjoyable outlet. That's why I write.
It will never be over Kat, you’ll die and the nurses in your hospice will be trans women, you’ll die knowing all your hate did no good.
Also that does nothing to stop the fact that we will win and you will lose, there are too many of us now, we are a problem with only one permanent solution. Giving us what we want. We will never go back into hiding. It’s too late for your bullshit, not only are you wrong, people will only think of you as wronger and wronger as time goes on.
Objectively untrue, if male nurses lose more patients it’s because they’re statistically assigned to departments with higher urgency and mortality. We know the staffing thing to be true.