Yes, the title is blunt. The reality was quieter, stranger, funnier, and far more profound. A diary of surgery, recovery, bone broth, piggy trotters, and finally feeling at home in my body.
Awesome thanks Stevie, have been waiting avidly for your post, postop. So happy for you and hope you have a speedy recovery and enjoy your new body. It has been so helpful understanding all the details.
You seem confused about female anatomy, not that you are alone in that. The vagina is the passage from the introitus to the uterus in the female. It is not the word for the external female genitalia. That word is vulva. If you had a catheter removed from your 'vagina' they'd put it in completely the wrong place.
I do hope you are happy with your body, you've undeniably put it through a lot but you are not now and never will be a woman. You can't make the rest of the world go along with your fantasy.
Oh my God, I’ve just re-read your comment a few months later. How amusing.
Nothing makes me laugh more than people being ridiculously pedantic about something the rest of the world would quite happily use interchangeably in ordinary conversation.
The funniest part, though, is that you must actually have gone looking for this article, found my Substack, and read it all just to annoy yourself. Have you literally nothing better to do?
If you’re not interested in this stuff, there’s a remarkably simple solution: don’t read it.
Well, here we are in October and I wrote my comment in February and I have no idea how I found your writing but I can promise you I really didn't go looking for you.
The rest of the world quite happily use interchangeably? Like sex and gender: look at the mess that's made for us. Accuracy matters. It would certainly matter if you sued your surgeon and part of your claim was about the urinary catheter they sited in your vagina.
Accuracy, then. I've never claimed to be female, and I've said so in print more often than you've commented here: by any textbook definition I'm a biological male. I'm also a woman in every room I walk into, and I had the surgery. All three are true at once, and it's the middle one you can't live with, which is why we're discussing catheters.
That's not an anatomy argument. It's a verdict looking for a footnote.
Found a transsexual's Substack by accident, twice, eight months apart. Some people have all the luck. That's my last word on it, Anne. The thread's yours if you want it.
It takes at least 6 months before you’re normal..Well maybe.
I’m not sure if I’m mentally stable yet. I think I am, but I still have my moments. I consider myself one of the lucky ones..6 inches of depth and everything works and looks perfect. One GRS revision. I need an FFS revision and I’m done.
Six months is the number they give you, and 'well, maybe' is the honest version of it.
I'm not sure I'm mentally stable yet either, and I'm not convinced anyone hands out a certificate. Having your moments sounds like being a person. Glad it all works, and one more and done is a very good place to be standing.
What makes this land is how unceremonious something so life-changing can feel once you’re inside it day by day. The body, the recovery, the absurdity, the relief — all of it gets to be real at once.
Oh, dear Lord, you are totally unhinged. Who is telling me no, by the way, to all of this? I'm a free agent with free will, and I can travel the world and spend my money how I choose with surgeons I choose to spend it on to do whatever I choose to myself. Who is this overarching authority that's telling me no, you unhinged crazy bat?
What a great read Stevie. You took me straight back to my July FFS !
The arms out and everything. The small details meld together but fun to read again.
Regarding the negative comments. It’s strange how wife, child and family abusers seem to get a pass. I’ve heard that described “yeah mate, Kevin is a bit hard on the missus”. But everyone likes Kevin as a fun guy.
Meanwhile, the some people loose their facking minds about Jose’s mtf journey as mentally deranged and or a threat to society. And worse if she needs to use the dunny. The sky is falling.
Congratulations. The writing is an inspiration. And informative. And thanks for sharing this personal event in your life.
Awesome thanks Stevie, have been waiting avidly for your post, postop. So happy for you and hope you have a speedy recovery and enjoy your new body. It has been so helpful understanding all the details.
You seem confused about female anatomy, not that you are alone in that. The vagina is the passage from the introitus to the uterus in the female. It is not the word for the external female genitalia. That word is vulva. If you had a catheter removed from your 'vagina' they'd put it in completely the wrong place.
I do hope you are happy with your body, you've undeniably put it through a lot but you are not now and never will be a woman. You can't make the rest of the world go along with your fantasy.
Oh my God, I’ve just re-read your comment a few months later. How amusing.
Nothing makes me laugh more than people being ridiculously pedantic about something the rest of the world would quite happily use interchangeably in ordinary conversation.
The funniest part, though, is that you must actually have gone looking for this article, found my Substack, and read it all just to annoy yourself. Have you literally nothing better to do?
If you’re not interested in this stuff, there’s a remarkably simple solution: don’t read it.
Well, here we are in October and I wrote my comment in February and I have no idea how I found your writing but I can promise you I really didn't go looking for you.
The rest of the world quite happily use interchangeably? Like sex and gender: look at the mess that's made for us. Accuracy matters. It would certainly matter if you sued your surgeon and part of your claim was about the urinary catheter they sited in your vagina.
Accuracy, then. I've never claimed to be female, and I've said so in print more often than you've commented here: by any textbook definition I'm a biological male. I'm also a woman in every room I walk into, and I had the surgery. All three are true at once, and it's the middle one you can't live with, which is why we're discussing catheters.
That's not an anatomy argument. It's a verdict looking for a footnote.
Found a transsexual's Substack by accident, twice, eight months apart. Some people have all the luck. That's my last word on it, Anne. The thread's yours if you want it.
Tell him, sister. That poor deluded guy.
I had mine done Jan 13th 2026.
Worst experience of my fkg life.
Don’t regret it at all.🤣🤣
That combination is the one nobody warns you about. Worst thing you'll ever sit through, and not a flicker of regret afterwards.
January is no time at all. Glad you're out the other side of it.
It takes at least 6 months before you’re normal..Well maybe.
I’m not sure if I’m mentally stable yet. I think I am, but I still have my moments. I consider myself one of the lucky ones..6 inches of depth and everything works and looks perfect. One GRS revision. I need an FFS revision and I’m done.
Six months is the number they give you, and 'well, maybe' is the honest version of it.
I'm not sure I'm mentally stable yet either, and I'm not convinced anyone hands out a certificate. Having your moments sounds like being a person. Glad it all works, and one more and done is a very good place to be standing.
Today is my day 👩 after a long journey … piv
What makes this land is how unceremonious something so life-changing can feel once you’re inside it day by day. The body, the recovery, the absurdity, the relief — all of it gets to be real at once.
Oh, dear Lord, you are totally unhinged. Who is telling me no, by the way, to all of this? I'm a free agent with free will, and I can travel the world and spend my money how I choose with surgeons I choose to spend it on to do whatever I choose to myself. Who is this overarching authority that's telling me no, you unhinged crazy bat?
Sorry, love, you're not getting the oxygen of a reply. Goodbye.
P.S. I didn't even read what you wrote.
What a great read Stevie. You took me straight back to my July FFS !
The arms out and everything. The small details meld together but fun to read again.
Regarding the negative comments. It’s strange how wife, child and family abusers seem to get a pass. I’ve heard that described “yeah mate, Kevin is a bit hard on the missus”. But everyone likes Kevin as a fun guy.
Meanwhile, the some people loose their facking minds about Jose’s mtf journey as mentally deranged and or a threat to society. And worse if she needs to use the dunny. The sky is falling.
Thanks again. Great stuff!!